One popular question or concern that I’m beginning to receive, nearly every day, from my subscribers is
“How do I approach my ex, when I was the reason for the breakup?”
Well, for one, you are not the ONLY reason for the break up!
So, you can take a deep breath and get over any excessive feelings of unnecessary guilt you may be carrying.
On the other hand, this is a very touchy and complex issue because now that you’ve finally realized that your ex is perfect for you, you need to clean up the foolish mistakes of the past and let him or her know that you still love them and want to rekindle the relationship.
If this sounds like your situation, then there are multiple factors that must be considered when deciding the
right method for getting your ex back.
For one, understanding the severity behind how the separation took place, is key in determining the correct, initial plan of action.
If the break up was extremely bad, then you may have to put deep thought & strategy into the reconciliation process.
If after weeks of being apart, you finally realize that the person you pushed away was actually the perfect match for you, then you have to search your heart and discover the reasons why you weren’t satisfied with the relationship in the beginning.
Once you come up with a set of reasons, then it is important to start the process by accepting part of the responsibility for why the relationship initially failed.
When you can honestly admit that you were at fault, then you are fully ready & prepared to make steps toward winning him or her back.
Honesty & Transparency are 2 vital keys in getting an ex back.
If your ex finds out that you are carrying feelings of regret over what happened and sees a sincere change in your heart for the better, then he or she may want to take you back.
However, there is also wisdom on how all of this should happen!
Timing is an important element in this whole scenario.
If you approach your ex too soon, then all of your efforts will backfire on you and they will only think you’re playing this role after realizing that the “grass isn’t too green” anywhere else!
And, for the most part, that can possibly be true!
But, you don’t want your ex to feel as if they’re the second choice and have never been number one in your life.
It just took you a while to realize that they were the only lover for your life!
This is why after most breakups, I suggest that you & your ex have some space and time apart to heal emotionally and think things through. (and even this varies, depending on the circumstance.)
So, with that being said, I would like to give you a list of 10 pointers that can help you determine the necessary amount of time you have to wait before talking to your ex again.
But, you will have to visit the following resource below to find out how!
The Advice Diva’s Guide To Getting Your Ex Back
See you later!
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