One of the hardest things to cope with during a breakup is when your ex fails to return your phone call after you’ve made the initial contact.
This avoidance from your ex can cause feelings of deep sadness, hopelessness, and even anger!
But, despite this occurrence, there are still ways you can get your ex to call you back, and truthfully, it is not as hard as you think.
Although, they may be rejecting you now, there are ‘secrets’ you can apply to get your ex to return your phone calls, or text messages.
This may sound hard to believe, but there are certain words that can seduce your ex, and make them feel compelled to call you back.
I’ve received hundreds of emails, over the years, from individuals just like you, that want to figure out how to reestablish communication with their ex and get them to return their calls.
The first thing that you must do is carefully layout a strategy of how you’re going to make the initial contact with him and what you are going to talk about.
Creating the plan or strategy is the most important process in getting your ex back.
You stand a chance of damaging your relationship for good if you proceed with the reconciliation without guidance or a detailed plan of action.
Most people suffering from a break up are generally controlled by their emotions and they never think clearly about the most appropriate methods for reestablishing the connection with their ex.
If you follow your emotions, then you can kiss your chances good bye of winning your lover back or getting him or her to return your phone call.
What You Should NEVER Say
Before, we begin discussing the exact words you shouldn’t say, let us go over the types of messages that will definitely not work.
They normally fall into two psychological categories.
- The Pleading Calls -
These are the messages you leave with your ex that sound like this:“Tyrone, this is the 3rd time I have called you. I really HAVE to talk to you. Will you please, please call me when you get a chance?”
- The Emergency Calls -
These types of calls go something like this:“Vanessa, please call me as soon as you get this message. This is an emergency, really!”
I won’t spend any time discussing these types of messages because it should be pretty apparent what the actual problem is with these calls. Right?
So, let us go on and discuss what really works!
Self Interest & Curiosity Is Really The Magic Key!
In the human mind, there are two powerful forces that, when used correctly, can manipulate people to do anything you want.
These two forces are self-interest and curiosity.
When you add an element of mystery and vagueness to your conversation with your ex, it can provoke curiosity in him or her and cause them to want to reach out to you and further understand what you are talking about.
The whole purpose of using self-interest and curiosity is to create a desire in the individual so that they can return your phone call. These two mental states and attitudes are the missing ingredients that have to be added to every conversation you have with your ex lover.
If not, then you definitely won’t get a response from them.
So, with that being said, here is what you should say to your ex to get them to return your call.
What You SHOULD Say
This is an example of how you should connect with your ex for the first time.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi Tyrone. It’s Michelle. I wanted to let you know that I appreciated what you did for me. Call me so I can thank you in person.”
In this example, there is both curiosity and self interest that are present within the message.
After Tyrone hears the message, he will think:
“What did I do that she needs to thank me? What does she appreciate?”
He will not be able to resist calling you back, and he feels good about it, because it was a positive message instead of a sad complaint about him or sob story from you.
He may feel that you have gotten over the pain of the break up, have forgiven him and are ready to move on. In this way, he will feel more comfortable talking to you.
However, if you are Vanessa, then you need to come up with a plan or strategy and figure out what Tyrone actually did that deserves appreciation. Before you utilize your self-interest & curiosity technique, it is important that you determine the type of ‘set up’ you are going to use.
You don’t want to look stupid when your ex returns your call and you have nothing to thank him for.
You can thank him or her for any small thing but it has to be valid and legitimate.
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Before you call your ex, make sure you have a well thought-out plan of action, like the one laid out in Secrets To Winning Back Lost Love, on how you are going to win your ex back for good.
Remember, if you don’t handle this correctly, it is very possible to do more damage than good if you try to apply this technique with no supporting strategy.
In all honesty, just getting them to return your phone call is really not the most important thing in your strategy.
What you do before the call, during the call, and after they return your call is all important to your overall plan.
So, with that being said, if you need assistance on developing a detailed plan on how to get your ex back, please click here.
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